Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Slacker

Yep, Slacker. That would be me. Slacking on my own blog.  I said it FOR you MOM.

Just been busy living life, taking care of 7 kiddos and keeping track of the 5 olders.  Lots of times that's just a text message, but that's okay, any form of communication so I, their mother, do not have to think something horrible has happened to them. As mothers tend to do. 

Yes, they never get so old that their momma doesn't think of, pray for, care about them.  And let them know it if they don't contact me often enough:)

Now I figured since I haven't posted recently that the best thing would be to ask you all to forgive me and give a BIGGGGGGGG long update on everyone.

So that's what you are going to get.

I'll go by the oldest (still at home) down to the youngest, with pictures. (of course)

Mr. Chase. 

Gotta love his usual face for my camera..... sigh. Oh, to look so happy everywhere else------SONshine.

Maybe I should ask him to cook or threaten to not edit his zits if he doesn't smile. OHHHH--  Bad, bad momma.  (Don't call MOM)

 But that's okay, we've seen much more happiness from this guy lately even if my camera doesn't bring it out.

Some nervousness too, being an adult is not easy and he's at that crossroad of no longer being considered a child, but not quite ready to fly the coop.

We've helped with job applications for him, he's eager to work and whomever gets this guy as an employee is going to be THRILLED-- he's a worker alright. He's very organized and you get NO complaints from him no matter the work to be done.

He went with the youth on a work/overnighter and helped weed flower beds. Did a super job then got up and made breakfast for all at dawn:) 

He had his presentation of his senior project, he didn't tell us--- we heard he did well. Just another thing that didn't surprise me when we learned he didn't tell us about it. He reminds me a lot of Donovan SONshine, he too, didn't tell us things that we would have gone to at school because he either ----

1. Didn't care if we were there
2. Didn't know we could come
3. Figured we had to work and wouldn't be able to come

I know it's pretty typical of some teens, so these "opting out" of telling us for school things does not surprise me nor do I let it bother me. Now in times past I  *might* have been really hurt/annoyed but he did fine and there's so much more in life than going there.....

Chloe girl. Our mission lovin'girl. She's brought home papers for every mission trip she can get her hands on.  I have to remind her that she does, indeed, have school and can not miss too much of it over the course of a school year to go on mission trips.

She also applied for a few jobs. I brought home one application but she turned her nose up at it. Yes, indeed she did. WHY? 

 Not because she doesn't want to work. Nope, she is a very harder worker, just like Chase. BUT--- she's very shy and she wanted to apply at jobs she felt she wouldn't have to talk as much at.  Silly girl, she would do just fine.

She's the time keeper as well-- she's the only one I have heard saying "There's only 11 days left of school", there's only 9 days left of school" of all the kids-- you would think there would be more of them who were keeping track but they don't need to with our Chloe around.

Chance. What can I say about Chance. He's already been covered in poison this summer. I'm surprised we have not had a trip to the doctor yet, but Grandma did teach him about baking soda paste and he *might* have finally realized when I told him that he HAD to stop scratching it was for a good reason-- sighhhhh.

He can not keep himself inside. It does seem that he is building some immunity to it, he's got more than 1 inch of skin that is poison free now:)

He's got lots of yard working jobs lined up for the summer and is eager to "Earn money!"  He doesn't like to sit around, my busy, outdoor lovin' SONshine.

Paisley.  The smiley girl.

Yep, she's often got that smile on her face. She hasn't said too much about summer- I could tell she was deeply considering the older kiddos "getting jobs" and I heard her tell Chance "Not me."  

I'm not sure she's actually SAD about that-- I think she probably is in some ways, because a job for her would be tough. And she's not really ready for that yet. 

The others have been home longer and are ready for all that jobs will bring them. Learning responsibility, handling money, bank accounts, debit cards, driving, interviewing, etc.  

But Paisley will make the big step of high school next year:)  She's really doing well with her learning and her adjustment/ maturity so we are excited for her to gain this big step. We think she is ready to be a high schooler:)

Camden-- gearing up for football already. Agility training.  Staying up too late and asleep by supper time tonight.  Poor guy, he plays hard. If it's light outside he wants to be out playing. 

Growing by leaps and bounds, size 10 shoes already at age 13, surpassing Derrik who ended up in size 14 shoes.  Goodness we grow 'em big here- ha ha! 

He's looking forward to summer vacation, he's not fond of getting up early, although besides Chase he is usually up the earliest of all of them. 

He cracked us up when he was getting sponsors for his football stuff and he actually got Chase to donate $5 to his cause.  Not Chance though, nope that guy won't part with $1 unless it benefits him in some way-- when Camden asked him he said ----
"What's in it for me?"


Kat is growing up.  She's changing her looks. Even Chance, who is not the most observant person when it comes to anything about the little girls said "Kat you look different every day."  

Yes, she's learned to do her own hair. She's really good at picking out her clothes, fixing her hair in to many different styles.  

She's a tween for sure--

 There's been lots of DRAMA in her class this year, something we were surprised to find so early on (10 year olds!!) and were not thrilled to hear some of the kids in her class actually thought they were "dating" each other.

Thankfully Kat knew better, in fact, when I asked her about it she said"I knew if Chloe and Paisley weren't allowed to date yet, I couldn't." 

Uh, yeah, that would be correct.  I didn't tell her Chloe could date if she wanted to. No interest there yet, but the point was she was smart enough to know if her much older siblings were not dating then she wasn't gonna be dating in 4th grade. OIY. Have I mentioned red hair turns WHITE, not grey and I have plenty of white hairs now? Poor Dad, they've got him all grey headed already:)

Now for the last one- Phoebe. Phoebe had made some great gains over the past few months, right now we are seeing a regression though, which I am sure has to do with summer vacation being days away.

We don't often have the "change of routine" upset with the older kiddos since they have been home much longer and do seem better able to adjust. 
 But Phoebe is still a "newbie" and still lagging in maturity quite a bit so this did not surprise me. 

 It did cause me to "blow" yep, I did. (MOM)  Because with the increase of anxiety over school ending she "ramped up" the whole competition issues with Kat.

And when it came down to something as simple as who could grab the laundry basket from me fastest to return it to the bathroom and they nearly knocked me over, that was it for me. 

Now, before you think "That's pretty petty to blow up over." Let me tell ya.  These 2 were fighting over EVERYTHING. Who got to the car first, who would sit where, who would hug dad or me first, who would say "Bye" first, who would get to sit next to us, who would get to hold hands, etc,etc, etc. It just didn't STOP. And the "loser" of these battles ended up being mad, pouting, crying, yelling, getting snotty, etc. It was UGLY.

So once I blew and said I would not tolerate this anymore, in any way, from either of them, things have gotten better. Each of the girls are very special in their own way and I would say one downfall to "twinning" a new sibling in is the difficulty of the new child to find their own place within the family and not be usurping on the other child's turf.  It's a very fine balance to pull off. 

We know that Kat is very generous and kind, but she also has limitations on tolerance when Phoebe is pushing her way in to every faucet of Kat's life.  And not always being kind about it. Because Phoebe is 10 but still behaves about 6 or so and 6 year olds like to have attention, they can be rude, they can be obnoxious at times.   

Our first steps to alleviate this is to give each girl time away from the other. We have  changed Phoebe's Sunday School class since the higher class wasn't at her reading level anyway and we have already arranged to have separate classes for the girls next school year. Even though it's been a huge help to have Kat with Phoebe in the same class in school, it's been hard too. 

Because even when told not to, the other kids in their class are going to Kat when Phoebe has an issue and wanting Kat to "fix it." Which is NOT Kat's place. She needs to be able to focus on her own learning, schedule, friends, etc. Without "carrying" Phoebe's issues.  Especially when we have had to push Phoebe to be independent and not just expect things to be done for her (or demand Kat do them for her) when her only issue is her vision, everything else works just fine:(

It's a learning process. Not always fun. Phoebe doesn't like to be "in trouble" (who does?) yet she will cling to behaviors she knows are not acceptable. Again, that whole "immaturity" not matching her age and won't for a long, long time.

Now, do NOT think it's all issues. Nope, no way. Phoebe is still a very joyful child. She doesn't hold a grudge. She's enjoying things that she is able to do for herself, things she didn't even realize she COULD do for herself:)  She's growing in many, many ways:)

One of the neatest things about her is her total acceptance of God, she took to learning about Him like a fish to water. She loves, Loves, LOVES God and wants to learn all about Him and share Him with everyone.

I'm betting none of you knew that  Jesus had some snow white hair and kinda looked like her?  Yep, she's always drawing pictures and often it's about God. 

So thankful she knows the One who brought her to our family.... she's very loved and just a wonderful addition within our bunch.  It's a joy to see her learn things and even through the harder times with her.

Because that's family--- the good, the rough, the forever and ever she's got us and we have her:)

We are very thankful for ALL of our kiddos.......  and so there you have it. The latest on our crew.
Just normal stuff, keeping on, keeping on:)

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