Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Hair drama

Looking for some good ol' feedback--

'Cause  Kat said this----"Mom, I want to cut my hair, it's too long."  AHHHHHH!

Because it's not as if this is huge in the grand scheme of life, BUT this is an issue that goes wayyyyyy back for Miss Kitty.  

I know I started blogging here long after we had adopted Miss Kitty (the original blog was on an adoption site that closed down and yes MOM I have a copy of it on CD) but Miss Kitty came to us with a shaved head.

And was very upset about it. I mean, extremely upset about it. As in, she cried when I got a haircut for the first  TWO years she was home. Did you read that- when I got a haircut, not even HER getting a haircut.

 And I promised her I would NEVER cut her hair except bangs and trimming. And this is the hair today- 6 1/2 years later--



Long. To her tush. Long.  Her hair is thin, not the super thick Chloe, Chase and Phoebe are blessed with. So it's not heavy or super hard to maintain, although she isn't super great at getting the back brushed through.

And for some reason she worries about "split ends" which I am sure she has some, but that can be fixed with a simple trim. 

  But she is talking about donating her hair. And I told her she's gonna lose about 11-12 inches of hair. So that what this looks like---

It would be cut right above the top of the hairband where the braid starts from. I'm having trouble imagining it.

BUT she "thinks" she wants to do it. 

BUT----- I just don't know. Yes, it will grow back. BUT, I can see her totally upset, mad, not happy day after day because it's GONE.

THEN WHAT?

Not even MOM wants to live with an unhappy Miss Kitty day after day, after day, after day. OIY.

So anyone else? Cut the hair? Don't, the drama isn't worth it?

HELP?

20 comments:

Rebecca said...

Ashlyn is the same way about her hair. She remembers them cutting her hair super short and crying. She refuses to get her looooong hair trimmed and begs me profusely to please not ever make her cut it. I'm guessing we will just go with it and cross that bridge when it's necessary:) good luck with Kat! I'd let her do it!

rachel garber said...

Kat!
Do it! I've grown my hair out lots of times and then cut it super short lots of times again. I had nice long hair (not like yours but on its way) and told my husband to trim it. Um, he CUT it and it's now uneven and so much shorter than I wanted but guess what? You cry a few hours and get over it, take some vitamins and pray it'll grow back fast. I think you'll look cute - SO CUTE - with shorter hair!

sasass said...

I think you have to let her know that this is her decision and that whatever she makes she can't change her mind. She is the one who said she wants to cut her hair but you telling her she has to cut it. I think it is different because she is getting to chose now.

Alexa said...

I think that if Kat thinks that she wants it cut then go for it! If she doesn't like it, she won't have to cut it again. Maybe she will love it!

Alexa said...

If Kat wants it cut, I think you should go for it! If she doesn't like it, she won't have to cut it again. Good luck!!!

Alexa said...

I think that if Kat thinks that she wants it cut then go for it! If she doesn't like it, she won't have to cut it again. Maybe she will love it!

Jennie said...

Cut it, Kat. Less time to shampoo all that hair, and less time in the shower. Just think what you can do with all that extra time! Hair regenerates as well.

Lynn said...

Hmmmm. My daughter was only 10 months at adoption and they had shaved her head. She has donated twice to locks of love. But she regrets the cut/donation she did last summer she was really difficult quite a few times this year over it, saying she hated her hair and was sorry she had ever done it and would never do it again. I don't know - make Kat think long and hard and let her know it's her decision - maybe even put it in writing!

Kerry said...

I think it might be good for her to have it cut. It will be for such a good cause and she has a very kind heart. If she doesn't like it at least she will feel good about where her hair is:)

Amanda said...

I think go for it! She has a good thought & heart for donating it! My little girl wanted her hair cut & now she refuses to let it get past her shoulders anymore!!! Once it starts to get a little long, she is READY for her cut!! Maybe Kat will love it??

mom2three said...

I think that it shows healing that she is wanting to cut and donate it. I agree that a talk first is necessary, so that she understands it will only be by her choice, but if the choice is made, she has to be ok about it afterwards. I know of at least one adopted Chinese girl that is in need of donated hair, so I'm sure it will go to help someone.

AlbinoPrincess said...

Because Kat is the one asking to get her hair cut, I would allow it, especially since she will still have semi-long hair after the cut. From the picture it looks like her hair would still be several inches below her shoulders.

I'm not sure where you're planning to donate Kat's hair if she does decide to get it cut, but I have heard some not so great things about Locks of Love. Another adoptive, bloggy mom has suggested using Children With Hair Loss instead.

http://nihaoyall.com/2013/06/what-she-did.html

mom2joy said...

I would definitely allow her to have it cut, especially since it will still have great length and will grow again.

Kim said...

If she wants it cut then, I'd allow her to do so. At least it will still be "long" (as in past her shoulders), and not "short" (above the shoulders) per my girls.

Just about 1.5 years ago, our oldest daughter decided that she was tired of having long hair and that some other child would benefit from having a wig made out of her hair. Her's also was to her bum. Her hair grows fast, and even though 12 inches was cut off, it's almost back to her bottom again.

She wasn't really happy after cutting it. . . that is until she received a picture of the little girl who now has hair thanks to her generosity. Then she was beaming with pride, and so proud of herself. Once her hair grows back to her bum, she plans on donating again. But not until then. . . This is her choice.

You could also look at this like a life lesson. . . there are always consequences to your decisions and actions, whether good (another child now has hair) or bad (Kat is not happy that she cut her hair shorter).

Blessings

Kim said...

If she wants it cut then, I'd allow her to do so. At least it will still be "long" (as in past her shoulders), and not "short" (above the shoulders) per my girls.

Just about 1.5 years ago, our oldest daughter decided that she was tired of having long hair and that some other child would benefit from having a wig made out of her hair. Her's also was to her bum. Her hair grows fast, and even though 12 inches was cut off, it's almost back to her bottom again.

She wasn't really happy after cutting it. . . that is until she received a picture of the little girl who now has hair thanks to her generosity. Then she was beaming with pride, and so proud of herself. Once her hair grows back to her bum, she plans on donating again. But not until then. . . This is her choice.

You could also look at this like a life lesson. . . there are always consequences to your decisions and actions, whether good (another child now has hair) or bad (Kat is not happy that she cut her hair shorter).

Blessings

Kim b said...

My 8 yo daughter just got her hair cut this week so she could donate it to Children with Hair Loss. Since coming home with almost no hair at 4 years old she has wanted long hair. About 2 weeks ago she said she wanted to get it cut and donate it - I was really surprised so i gave her 2 weeks to really think about it. She never wavered and she is so proud of herself.
Oh and she looks adorable with her new short hair!

Narissa said...

Narissa said NO WAY, DON'T DO IT! I on the other hand think it would be very cute. I am not fond on Narissa's very long hair. If Kat cuts, maybe she will too! Tell Kat she will be beautiful no matter what the cut looks like, and we can prove it by the first pictures of her!

Narissa said...

Narissa said NO WAY, DON'T DO IT! I on the other hand think it would be very cute. I am not fond on Narissa's very long hair. If Kat cuts, maybe she will too! Tell Kat she will be beautiful no matter what the cut looks like, and we can prove it by the first pictures of her!

Jennifer said...

We have had similar hair drama at our house. CG growled, "Ayi no scissors cut my hair!" after her first trim at age 3. My girly girl meant she was never having another buzz cut. We have had to trim about an inch off several times though to get her hair to thicken up. Tell Kat if she cuts her hair it will grow back even thicker and more beautiful.

K said...

I just took 7 inches off my daughter. It was too hard to manage. I put pictures on my blog today. She likes it shorter. I want it about two inches longer. By Christmas it'll probably have those two inches back.