Thursday, July 19, 2012

Chloe's letter

As promised Chloe and I worked on a project together. What is it? 

Well--- she wanted to help older kids getting adopted. She recalled having total fear of what it meant to be adopted, to come with me, what would happen to her once home with me, how she would be treated.

So what better way to ease the mind of a child soon to be adopted than a first hand account of what Chloe recalls? 

Here's the letter she wrote in English-- 


My name is Chloe but in China my name was Min Lu Yun. I lived in XinYang in an orphanage in Henan. I was adopted to America in 2009.  You are getting an American family and I wanted to help you to know what that means and not be scared.

American people are very nice. They care about you very much. When my mom first came I was so scared. I did not know what to expect. I remember she smelled good. She had brought my little sister who was also adopted from China  many years before and as a younger child so she did not speak Chinese anymore.

We signed papers. We went to eat. My mom smiled at me often. She wanted me to pick anything I wanted to eat. We pretended our chopsticks were coming out of our ears, or out of our heads and we laughed.

We went back to a hotel and mom had a suitcase of stuff for me, clothes,  shoes, coloring pages, nail polish.  I got to play with my new little sister. I took a bath with many bubbles, it was my first bath. I learned my family had picked the American name Chloe for me and it meant "blooming" like a flower. I really liked that because Lu Yun was very hard for them to say.

We had a guide, a Chinese woman who helped us get to appointments we had to go to for my adoption, and who helped my mom go to the store. We went to a big store and bought many things to take back to my orphanage. I got to pick out anything I wanted for me.

Soon we flew on a plane, my first plane ride, to Guangzhou. Every American family goes to Guangzhou to finish the adoption papers to bring you to America. Sometimes I was bored, we waited for papers to get done and I was missing my friends from the orphanage.

But soon it was time to fly to America. It was a very long flight. I noticed in the airport in America no one looked like me now, so many people who looked different. Red hair, blue eyes, blond hair, brown eyes.  People were tall, short, heavy, thin. All different and interesting. I stayed close to my mom who made sure I was with her and safe.

We got home the next day. I met my new brothers and dad. I was scared of my dad, I had not been around any men who were nice in China. But I soon learned my dad was very nice. Quiet, but he cared about me.  Wanted me to be happy.

It was hard at first. I could not talk to anyone in Chinese. I missed Chinese food. I missed smells of China.  I cried. My mom and dad had someone come over who could speak Chinese to see if they could help. And they worked with me to teach me English. It seemed so hard at first but it really was not long and I could ask for things, I could talk to people in my family in English.  My mom and dad tried very hard to help me find foods I liked, to understand what I needed when I tried to tell them in English.

I was finding things that were good about America, not forgetting China, I will never do that, but there are good things in America and about having a family. First I always have enough food now. I did not in the orphanage. I have nice clothes, new things, my clothes are washed and clean, I do not have to worry that I will not get my clothes back. My mom takes me shopping when I grow and I got new shoes. In the orphanage I got 1 pair of shoes and if my feet grew I had to wear them till the next New Year when we got a new pair of shoes. Here, I get new shoes when I need them. And I have more than 1 pair.

That does not mean my family buys me everything. No.  I would like to have a cell phone, I wanted an  I pod. I just got an I pod for Christmas (big American holiday) I do not have a cell phone yet. That is the something my parents have to decide when I can have one.  My parents are good to me, they have never hit me. They do not make me do  a lot of work, I help by keeping my room clean, I take a turn once a week washing dishes. Americans want to adopt Chinese children to give you a family. That is a very good thing. It gives you people who care for you, who will help you, who will always be there for you, even when you are grown. Family is people you can trust.  

You will get an education. Some American families have school at home. Some send you to school in a big yellow bus.  I go to school on the bus. My mom made sure to find me a friend, who speaks English and she is my best friend now. She helped me every day to get to classes, to help me understand English. And you get a special teacher to help you learn English too. Teachers here are kind and everyone wants to help you. 

It is important to honor your new family, call your new parents, mom and dad. It is not okay to be rude, to be mean to them or to your new brothers or sisters. That is not good to do. You can chose to try, to learn English (practice) and be happy or be sad all the time from missing China. There is much good so I am very happy and I can still love my China. 

Having a family is good. I will always be Chinese, but now I am also American too. My mom says I have the best of both places.  I still speak Chinese, my mom found out when I was adopted I had 2 brothers who were at the orphanage. And she said they would go back for them. I did not believe her at first,  I saw pictures of my family and there were 5 sons, so I thought they did not want my brothers.

I found out my new parents did not know I had Chinese brothers, and they did not lie to me, they did paperwork and we went  to China 1 year later and adopted my brothers.  Now we all have a family.  My family love me and your family wants to love you. They want to get to know what you like, what you do not like, they want you to be happy, make friends, give you a chance to have a great future. You can dream here, of what you want to do with your life and actually do it. Be a teacher, be a translator, be a scientist, a nurse, whatever you wish. I get to cook Chinese food, we celebrate Chinese New Year and Moon festival and my family even celebrates each year on the date of when my mom came to China to get me, I get gifts. 

I had to learn with my new family that I was important but also ALL the children in the family were important.  I am special to them, they wanted me. My parents may tell me no and I do not like that but they want what is best for me.  They teach me about being in America- things that are different than China, so I can learn.  They care if I am happy, sad, tired, mad. They treat me the same as their other children even when I was scared and thought they would love the children already here more. They show me that they can love more than 1 child, they can love many. And I can have a brother with red hair, a dad with blue eyes, it does not matter. I get to teach my family about China. 

 It is the best thing ever, to have gotten a family. I am not an orphan any more. My only wish? I wish I had gotten my family sooner. It is funny but my mom says the same thing- she wishes she had ME sooner. I am happy to have them now, that I do not have to grow up forever without a family to care about me. 


And here's the great part--- the letter translated for you to use to send to your child, or to take along for your adoption trip.  This has been made possible by Jax 
Please, if you use the letter, I ask that you show your support and gratitude toward Jax and their adoption journey,  be it prayer, buy a t-shirt  at
        Or Chip in  at their blog 

 Chloe deeply wants to see them bring home another orphan, so she asked that their adoption be supported by her help.


我的名子叫Chloe, 在中國我的名子叫楊明盧.我原來住在河南省,一個在信陽的孤兒院.我在西元2009年被領養到美國我想讓你們了解,被一個美國家庭收容的感受,藉此告訴你們沒有必要感到害怕.


















Please continue to help Jax-- every little bit adds up so don't think your $5 isn't enough, remember we got to the boys on $5, here, $10 there, etc. It matters:)

Of note- if anyone has trouble printing this out from the blog please e-mail me and I will send you a copy via e-mail to use, it looks kinda blurry to me on my computer on the blog.


Peace said...

Please tell Chloe how great that letter is! I am American, I've been to China 3 times. Last time I went I volunteered at an orphanage in Xi'an called Starfish, it was really great, I love to play with all the kids & spend time appreciating them. It fills my heart. Starfish has only been open for seven years, so none of the children are old enough to read the letter, but it was so nice of Chloe to think of others in that way. What a great kid!

thesleepyknitter said...

OK, tear-jerker!!!

Please tell Chloe that her letter is beautiful. I pray that it helps many teens to know that their new family loves them and wants to take care of them.

Thank you for posting her letter!

Rebecca said...

Thank you Chloe!!! What a gift that is!!! That was just beautiful and so real and heartfelt. I can not wait to send that to our daughter.

Marji said...

Oh my, a friend just sent this link and I am forever in her debt. Chloe, thank you so much for your letter. I am adopting my fifth daughter who will be 13 years old by the time I can travel. I have worried so much about her feelings of fear and loss although I know that a family and a future are better than the prospects she has if she remains in China. My dossier should leave the agency for China tomorrow. I'm going to print your letter and keep in in my file until I can send our first package of gifts to her when it gets closer to the time to travel. And I will definitely send a donation to the wonderful translator because this letter is just priceless.
Marji, mom to four here and one there

asianalmondtea said...

What a great letter. I have printed this out as we are traveling soon to adopt an 11 year old. I have visited and made a donation to Jax.

Thank you so much,


Sherri said...

Please tell Chloe that I love the letter she wrote. My husband and I adopted from China just this year. We waited by the time Emma was placed in our arms 5 yrs, 6 mos, 1 wk and 4 days and today she's been our daughter now 5 months. She's just a baby and is 17 months old, she's very happy and so loves her family....and we are so in love with her.

Lisa M said...

Oh Chloe, Thank you so much!!!! I will be sending this to our 13 year old son that we are working toward adopting and I'll be visiting Jax's site to make a donation as sooooo as I hit enter! This is a beautiful way to support many adoptions!!!

mom2three said...

Chloe, what a wise and insightful letter. You have learned so much in the past few years. Thank you for your williness to pass on your wonderful wisdom to help others. You are a thoughtful young lady being raised by wonderful parents. May God bless and use this letter to bring hope and peace to many anxious hearts.

Nancy said...

Chloe, you are fabulous! Your letter is sure to reach many kids who are scared to be adopted, and it will calm their fears. Way to go!

MommaT said...

Absolutely amazing Chloe!!!

Love for Lilly Yin said...

Chloe, I am so PROUD of you! What a great story!

Dottie P said...

Please tell Chloe that I think her letter was so helpful, and I am so impressed at how thoughtful she is to think of how these orphans are feeling and realizing that she can help.God is shining through her!

Heather said...

Wow! This is beautifully written. Very descriptive too. chloe thought of everything! What a special gift she has given to others. I love her heart! What an amazing kiddo!

KellyM said...

Just printed this letter off for my teen daughter waiting in Jiangsu, and just contributed to your friends' adoption. This is the third letter I've collected from teen girls adopted to the states, the other two are old friends from our daughter's orphanage. I hope so much that they are all helpful in her transition! HUG your precious Chloe for me and my family, and for our Katy Xia! We travel in November!

Donna said...

I cried through this entire thing! Chloe, I admire you SOOO much and what you've written will probably help other girls more than any other thing they'll read before embarking on a new life with a new family. My heart aches when I think of the fear and uncertainty you must have felt. Only someone who has lived through it can reassure another child that it'll be okay. God bless you, Sweetie! You're lucky to have such a loving family but THEY'RE lucky to have a treasure like YOU!


Mom to two Monkey Year girls born Summer 2004:
Gwen of Shenzhen (adopted from China 2005)
Madeline of Qinzhou (adopted from China 2006)

Smith said...

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this! Our family traveled in July to China when we adopted our first daughter, GiGi (2.5 y/o). Our family is adopting an older daughter now. I am so grateful for your letter. Guan Ya will be 14y/o in March and is deaf-mute. We have conformation from her orphanage that she has wanted to be adopted. We will be going after her in the next 4 months. I've been contacting other AP in the states that have adopted older kids to ask their children to write a letter to Guan Ya so I could send it to her to take away some of her fears. No one has expressed she has fears but I would.
Thank you for sharing your letter because I will also use it to send to GuanYa. I have Chinese native friends that live in the US, China & Germany and many have offered to translate for us so if you know of any other older adoptee that would like to write a letter to her, I have access to getting translation if they are not translated. Also if you anyone else reading this has an older child & would like to connect or write to Guan Ya, please contact me at
I know adoption is different for each person, but is there anything else that would have made you more comfortable (while waiting in China to unite with your family) meeting & uniting with your forever family?

We've sent letters, pics, care package, etc & soon plan to send another one. In it we plan on sending her a portable DVD player with adapters for plugs, etc. with a video of our family. We will record our home, some friends, & places we often visit. We will use sign language & cue cards in Chinese to communicate to her on the video. If nothing else, it should make her laugh at how silly I'm sure it will turn out – we are a silly family! lol

If you have any other ideas on anything else we could do to make the transition easier on her (especially since she will be 14y/o or really close) please send me an email.
I'm so happy for you & your family!!! The blessings for an adoptive parent are more than an adoptive child could ever realize; we are lucky to have all our children!! Thank you again for sharing!
You can find pictures of our family on our blogspot

You can find pictures of our family on our blogspot.