Friday, April 29, 2011

SAD

I'm very sad today. I have been for days. I've been deciding what direction to even go with this.


You see, certain PEOPLE have put us on the defensive. Regarding this blog, as if it's a BAD, BAD thing. Now my goal with this blog, which, last time I checked was MINE and no one is FORCED to read it, was to -


1.Honor God and His hand in adoption


2. Help any family adopting older to educate and prepare for what the road may bring.


Support families being built. Help in any way we could. Our kids know I blog. They have no problem (outside Donovan never liking any picture of himself) with what I post or the pictures of themselves.


They have offered to help any child being adopted, we were recently contacted by a family close by that wanted to have the threesome help their new teen aged son from Ch*na with understanding how thing work in a family, with school, etc. They are excited and happy to do this.


So please forgive my absence while I decide what to do:(


And to the mean people who have targeted my blog this way- GET OFF MY BLOG.
Stop reading. RIGHT NOW. You are not wanted here. I think you have the wrong idea, wrong blog and are just wrong. So there.

43 comments:

l said...

Please Vicky, Continue blogging.
I´m from Spain, I don´t write english well, but I want to tell you that your family is wonderful and you too.
Forget that kind of people.

Haces bien a muchas familias, vuestra experiencia es un gran ejemplo. A veces es dificil separar lo privado de lo que debe saber todo el mundo. Pero al ver a tu familia, otras familias pueden comprender lo que es adoptar a un niƱo mayor.

You are a GREAT mother!
Leonor

Sherrie said...

We all know that there are mean and nasty people in this world, many of them parading around as caring individuals. I hope that you will continue to write your blog, and if you feel you need to go private for a while to think about what to do, then a password protected blog is the answer. But, remember this, many, many, many people blog, they talk about their children, they post photos of their children, some go into great detail about issues they are having, and some don't give any details. Come to think of it, there are agency blogs that talk about children in this very country that need new families, there are agencies that post photos and details about children that are in other countries that need families. Maybe you should print out a bunch of these blogs and give them to the people that are mean and nasty and send them off to "SAVE" all these children from the terrible blogging people!!!! I wonder what direction they would go in first...maybe to the Pioneer Woman who is now famous for her blogging and has appeared on the Today show, just to name one television show she has been on. Oh, maybe you should do a reality show, the last I knew people are free to do such things and not have mean and nasty things said about them by mean and nasty people!!!! Can you tell I'm irritated????? :-).

Andi said...

I love your blog and admire you and your family for bringing teenagers into your home. I adopted a 15 month old 3 1/2 years ago from China and have been considering adopting an older child. Thanks to your blog, I know I'm capable of following through with this decision. You are doing a great job and don't pay attention to anyone saying anything different.
Andi

traceylynndel said...

I am sorry to hear this. I hope you do keep blogging. Don't let them win! But of course you do have to do what is best for your family.

Lillie's Mom said...

Not sure if I've commented before- I'm a long time reader who has been encouraged a-plenty by your blog. Thank you for your openness, your honesty and your lovely sense of humor. OK, that said, now let me chime in with all the others to say in regards to the haters out there? screw 'em! And I mean that in the nicest way possible. ;0)There's a reason we call hateful commenters trolls. Trolls are either entirely too bored and need to get a life- or entirely too controlling and need to get over themselves. Can you imagine expecting everyone in the blogosphere to agree with your way of doing life? Of course not- normal people agree to disagree and move on. Trolls spend time looking for things to pick apart and disagree with. They try to control everything- even other peoples' blogs. Please don't let overly bored and overly controlling people steer your decisions. Say whatever you want on here- it's your space! Raise your family in the way God leads you to! Let the trolls find someplace else to play.

Sarah Oyer said...

Amen to your supporters' comments so far! This is YOUR blog and it's an inspiration to countless people out here. Don't pay too much attention to people who have nothing better to do than to try to override your judgment about what's best for your family - God gave you your own conscience to abide by, not theirs! I can't imagine you telling them how to run their lives. And no, you don't FORCE them to read your blog. I love your sense of humor, your honesty, your ability to deal with everything life throws at you, your reverence and irreverence. You've touched a lot of people. You are a fantastic mother! Those nay-sayers need to learn a thing or two about boundaries - and you're just the one to teach them! ;-)

Kerry said...

Please keep blogging. This is one of my favourite blogs to read. You are wonderful, have great charater. You are honest and a very good Mom.

Dont let these awful people hurt you, or stop you doing something you love.

Kelly said...

I blog a lot about my family, but haven't been targeted with anything super negative. I imagine that it would cut me very deeply though. Please don't stop blogging (or if you go private, give me a password :-)) I read your blog all the time and it is what has me interested in older child adoption (sadly, I'm working on the hubby end of it). You keep it real, and let us know what to expect.

Jerry and Christy said...

Vickie,
I love your blog. You have helped us to see that adopting an older child is something we could do. You helped us to be able to move forward with adopting an older child. I love your honesty and sense of humor. It makes me sad that anyone would want to post awful things on your blog. I am sure you have helped many people and your family is a blessing.

jane said...

Vicky,

Thank you so much for sharing your family & blog! You are such an inspiration and an awesome mom! You have such a beautiful family! Please dont let those mean people get to you.

Jane

Lori Lynn said...

I love how you say as you see it. You are not afraid to get into the hairy details. Sure, that may open you up to the criticism of those who think they are better than everyone else, but it's people like you telling the real story that help others make informed decisions. I am sure you have encouraged some people to take that step and change lives. And perhaps you may have also scared away some people who had "pie in the sky" ideas, but that is also a good thing. This process isn't for the weak of heart, but it is rewarding for those who are up to the challenge.

Be encouraged. Delete the spam. Don't even bother to read it through.

MommaT said...

Remember we aren't here to please man, we are here to glorify God, which my dear, is what you do everyday:) Keep it up...praying and supporting you..no matter what you decide to do, you have and will continue to help people and be an advocate for those who don't have a voice. May God bless you!

Julie said...

Vicki, I'm kind of stunned. I cant think of one reason why someone would put you or your blog down. I don't get it. Please dont stop blogging! If you need to "talk" just let me know. This is a serious offer! We live so close, we really have to get together this summer. I'd LOVE to meet you and your family.

Sue Mom of Two said...

Vickie, I love reading your blog, reading about your trials adopting THREE older children, and love reading how you are handling the issues. Obviously there are a lot of different problems with teenagers than with younger children and your family is handling the problems like champs! I do hope you continue to blog, but I understand your family's well being has to come first.

Chasing Starshine said...

Well, I can't comment on the people who have left hurtful comments, since I don't know where they're coming from. I do know that as our family has considered older child adoption, I feel like I owe a debt to you and some other blogging mamas who have shared some of what life "on the ground" is like with a recently adopted older child. There are some great books out there, which I've also read, but because blogs are written from the middle of the experience, they give me a better idea of what it would feel like to be the parent during that time before a situation has been figured out and come to a neatly packaged ending. But even when you're sharing something difficult, you speak of your kids with a tone of affection and respect (and I love your sense of humor!). I think you are accomplishing your goals with this blog, and I hope you are able to sort through all the thoughts and feelings these people have brought up and reach a place of peace, whatever that ends up looking like.

Elizabeth said...

Oh no! I just found your blog and I've really enjoyed reading it!! I hope you decide to keep going with it!

Susan said...

Don't let some jerk stop you from blogging. I love to read your blog, you tell it how it is and I admire how well you handle all the different personalities in your family.

Sue said...

Vicki, Keep blogging, I went thru a similar thing with my blog and have learned not to go into as much details about the not so good stuff, but have been told that my blog helps others just as you have helped me before and after we brought home Erin.

Regina said...

I love your blog. There was a time when we were considering adopting an older child. That is when I found your blog and I have been a faithful follower ever since. I think you give a very realistic view to those who might be considering older child adoption. You and your family are so inspiring to me. Just remember those reasons you listed as to why you blog and forget the negative people. They are obviously not your target audience anyway.
Blessings to you and your family!!

Anne said...

Vicky,

I've been reading your blog since Chloe came home and I love it and your down to earth approach! It's the first blog I read each day. Please don't stop!

Much love to you all,
Anne

CherryBomb2 said...

Vicki, here is a tried and true way to make those horrible people so mad they explode !

Ignore them. Do not reply, do not change one single thing you are doing or saying on your blog.
Never mention these ignorant creeps again.

You have a large and loyal following that looks forward to you and the Whacky antics of all your loved ones! Don't allow those poisonous grubs to influence your Blog. Ignore them. JC

sunflowermom said...

Hi Vickie,

I hope you don't stop blogging. I've been following your blog since January of 2010 and it's been such a blessing. You've been very kind to me and my family on our adoption journey. I think you are gifted in, not only being a parent, but in sharing your experiences, sharing your hurt, your challenges, your love and you make it all come through so real.

I hope you stay!

Lisa

CherryBomb2 said...

Vicky ...Ignore those slime-ball, poisonous
hippocrits ( ? Sp ? ). Don't reply to them, never mention them again. They are small-minded Cretins and do not deserve to be treated as human beings. They are trash.

You have a large and Loyal following that looks forward to your daily blogs ... following you and your Whacky loved ones as you do God's bidding and bring love & peace to the forgotten children of the world. J C

Chad said...

Oh Vicky!

Jen and I have gotten so much joy and encouragement from your blog. I am a grown man and I have found myself crying as I have read your words in the past. I share your story with my family, my coworkers, and my church. We have prayed for your family and have rejoiced over each victory God has given you. I've never met you face to face but your family is precious to me. You hang in there and keep being the MOM you have been called to be!

Lots of love,

Chad (Charli Grace's Dad)

Nancy said...

Please Vickie keep on keeping on. I religiously check your blog every day...and quite frankly I wish you blogged more frequently. And thank you for keeping it real.

bbmomof2boys said...

You have gotten a ton of encouragement here! I'll add some more. You are awesome, I love the way you keep it real, not all sugar. If anyone comes to me about adopting an older child or out of birth order I send them here.

People can be so mean. I'll never understand that. Why be that way when life is just so short? Don't let them shut you down chick. Ignore them and pray for them. (yeah, that last thing is hard!)

Hugs,
Carla

Rebecca said...

Please continue blogging.
I have been a reading your blog for over a year now and have enjoyed it so much. It is so wonderful to see your family grow and change. You guide them with such grace and humor and always with an understanding that there is God watching over us all. I was adopted as a child by wonderful parents and in the years to come I hope to adopt/foster older children myself. You are an inspiration. Your family is an inspiration. Please continue to share your story with us.
Fondly,
Rebecca

Shirlee McCoy said...

I'm guessing these are the same people who are unhappy with my blog. My suggestion - ignore them. Personally, I love your blog. It always makes me smile.

Joy said...

You know I love reading your blog. I would be "SAD" if you stopped writing. If you go private, please send me the password.
Joy

EasterApril said...

I love your blog. You keep the teenage years REAL! Please don't give up and let the haters win. Leesa

Heather said...

So sorry you have had some lousy readers! Just know the majority of your readers want to see your family have an amazing life! Your kids are just adorable and your teen boys? Well, just makes me want to jump on a plane for one! LOL

Again, so sorry and know I am one of your SUPPORTIVE readers!

Michele said...

I just love your blog! Most of all I love how HONEST you are. Adopting older kids is not easy. I check on you every few weeks and I love hearing how your kids are growing and changing.
I emailed you once (maybe a month ago). Not sure you got it, but with a yahoo group for kids from China with attachment issues.
Please don't stop blogging, definitely don't stop being honest.

Hunan Mommy said...

You provide inspiration to SO MANY people considering older child adoption and do a tremendous job of advocating for older kids. I follow your blog on a daily basis and so does my mom. Both of us have found your story incredibly inspiring. My mom and I are beside ourselves at the thought of not reading your blog:-( The people posting ugly comments prove there are morons everywhere!

Misty said...

I have only recently found your blog, and it has been such an inspiration to me, as I have contemplated adoption and what it would mean for our family.

I am actually a web designer, and if you would like any help blocking your website, or moving to another address off of blogger, where you would have your own domain name, and the ability and freedom to block angry/mean commenters, please let me know.

I would be more than willing to donate the moving, hosting, domain name purchase, security upgrades and design services...

No matter what, it is great that you are really defining your goals for why you blog, and what you want to accomplish. You are doing a great work!

Shannon and Boyd Bringolf said...

Vicki, you are doing a wonderful thing blogging about your children and life. I love reading your blog and my children do also. We may never adopt an older child, but who knows what God's path is for us. Those people or person who were mean about your blog are probably the same people who felt really good making people feel bad when they were kids and are still doing it as adults. Don't let their childish behavior affect the awesome wonderful REAL family.

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Lesley said...

I'm another long time lurker here and have never commented before (sorry) but I read your blog regularly and enjoy it very much. My mom (also a lurker) told me about it a long time ago and we both read it and if we've missed a post, we tell each other about what the latest is so we can get "caught up." :) My older sister was adopted from Korea and so my mom and I just love reading adoption blogs and hearing other pepole's stories. As everyone else has said, your blog is inspiring and encouraging! Keep up the good work and God's blessings on you and your family!

jenniferhetrick said...

Vickie,
I've been reading your blog for a long time and haven't ever commented. I love your honesty and humor. My husband left me after 30 years of marriage and sometimes your blog was the only thing that made me laugh or smile.
I've started working with older foster kids, in large part due to you. Keep doing what God calls you to.
So haters, BACK OFF! Sending love your way. Jennifer

Corlia said...

Vicky, I've learned a lot from you and really appreciate your blog. I hope the attacks will stop and those people will leave your family alone. God Bless!

Laura said...

Isn't that the way Satin works? Taking something so wonderful as what you are doing for others and making YOU feel as if you are doing something wrong? Your blog has touched mine and countless other's hearts! I found it while you were meeting Chance and Chase for the first time. I was gathering information in order to prepare our family for a future adoption trip to China next year. Your stories, stuggles, and victories have made me laugh, cry, and rejoice in how God has worked and will continue to work in your life! Please don't stop blogging! I will be able to take what I have learned from you and your journey and use it next year as we make the adjustments necessary to bring an older child into our lives! If your family is alright with your blog then don't let Satin win! Praying for you all...

Marie94 said...

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. (I am trying to imagine what is being said.) I love reading you blog it is an encouragement every time I read it. Your blog does honor God. Hang in there, you will be in my prayers.
Robyn in WI

Inga said...

Don't go away.


I just don't understand these people. If any of you are reading this please email me to help me understand why you would be so ugly and not mind your own business. Ever heard of the old saying if you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all.

I love reading your blog, I hope to adopt one day, so I live through others. Your kids are precious, your blog funny. You are an awesome family and don't let anyone on here tell you differently!!!!!!!

Chris said...

After 42 comments you hardly need my .02 but keep blogging...I need to know that my life is sort of "normal" and then on other days I read yours and am so thankful that "mine isn't all that bad"

But I know that the first time someone says something nasty to me I will probably close down too...
Take heart...you have a lot of supporters