Saturday, January 30, 2010
Thursday, January 28, 2010
WOW. AND........we also have approval from immigration for both!!
Both approvals came today!
Many are questioning how this happened, didn't one age out? Ye of little faith- ha ha! An error you see, of a misplaced number making it seem someone was too old but in fact he is NOT. Miracles.. happening for these guys, they are BOTH coming home!! Chance and Chase will be growing up with their sister, siblings forever.
I have to go cry now. I'm just so overwhelmed with all the great news of our SONS!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Just goes to show you, there may be no one who really, truly knows WHO is adopted here and who is not. I guess it just makes it easier to treat them all the same, as our children we love, at least most days - ha ha! It is interesting how once you get to know us, and even faster to us, that the darker skin and black hair just fits, it doesn't stand out.
I just thought that was amazing because of all the children I have to say Cam is the carbon copy of me, just the male form. He is the one everyone who is puzzled by our "color variety family" they pick out immediately as "mine" just due to the red hair, the big brown eyes, pale coloring. His nickname has been "mini male me" for some time now.
Today we got an update on Chance, with one picture. He sure is a cute bugger and a carbon male copy of Chloe. She told me "he smile, have no eyes like me" meaning he smiles big and his eyes squint tight enough to not see them. Chloe has some eye jealousy issues:) She says "why you eyes so big?" I just told her she could have them if I could have her skinny butt:) She's wasn't taking any of my fluff- ha ha.
I did ask her why he was wearing slippers thinking she might say they are his favorite or something like that- no, I should have known better. She comes off with "I don't know, I not there" like I was goofy for asking her. Turd.
His measurements are very close to Chloe as well. She is now 89 lbs and 5 ft 1 inch. He is 88 lbs and 5 ft 1/1/2 inches. We were all amazed that he is growing about the same as her. As she eats and eats here, slurping her noodles tonight so bad that I said "Chloe, good grief, why don't you eat like you are Chinese already?" And she laughed as we always do, 'cause she was doing it on purpose to get me to say something.... a little game, you see, that she thinks I don't know what she is doing.
No news on the approval yet.....still waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting, like it or not waiting, guess you can figure out what we are doing-- W-A-I-T-I-N-G:(
Okay, I'm getting bugged by Mini Male Me to type his homework with him so gotta goooooooo..
Monday, January 25, 2010
Saturday, January 23, 2010
I think this last bit of waiting is possibly the hardest to endure, at least that's what I am claiming if anyone does call me out on any of my crazy doings till we travel. It just seems to take forever to get final approval to GO and all you want to do is GO, it seems so simple to just say "GO".
Friday, January 22, 2010
Thank God I have a strong stomach or I might have added to the mess, I just smiled at her and said "thanks Lucy, thanks a lot." To which she licked my face and wagged her tail. I'm gonna say 2 words here, doggy carrier.
My mom just brought me that new coat 2 days ago, I was amazed Chloe liked it because she has told me "Turkey no give you clothes" Meaning, she doesn't like clothes Tookie (my mother's nickname) gives me.
Chloe says "they old woman clothes" and I hate to break it to her but fluffy mother is getting older. She doesn't want me and my mother looking the same ( nor do I!) but there's an issue when we are both fluffy and Tookie helps me out with clothing from time to time. I am thankful for the jeans, not so much the genes. No nasty phones calls MOM. You know it's true.
I'm not even gonna remind you of the underwear fiasco of my last trip to China, no wonder Chloe has it in for your clothing "help" after that.
Chloe's new glasses are in. We will be off to get them after school and get some help with the contacts. Yeah, we are having trouble getting them in. Then once in she says they "feel funny", which I think is from us messing with her eyes so long to get the buggers in. So we are going for momma instruction, I can put them in for her in the morning, I don't mind, but I am having a hard time even trying.
Okay now for the super momma recipe's- I don't normally post such things but I will this time. I might tell you that to me 4 ingredients or less is my all time favorite recipes.
For the laundry soap-
1/3 bar of Fels-Naptha bar soap
1/2 cup borax
1/2 cup Arm & Hammer washing soda
2 gallon bucket
Take a pan, grate 1/3 bar soap into it, add 6 cups water. Heat till melted, add borax and washing soda. Stir till dissolved. Put 4 cups hot water in bucket, add soap mixture and stir. Add 1 gallon and 6 cups of water. Let sit overnight. 1/2 cup per load.
Some tips- soap will not be sudsy, doesn't need to be, it does clean your clothes. It has a nice lemony smell to it from the bar soap. It gels, kinds like thick egg soup. This works in ALL machines, HE, top loader, front loader. Triple the recipe and make in a 5 gallon bucket, it will keep. I got the ingredients at the local grocery store, could not find the bar soap needed at Walm*rt. 7 cents a load, can you justify buying T*de anymore? I can't! Use fabric softener if you need your pretty smell, I do:)
3 bags frozen broccoli pieces
1 pint whipping cream, light or heavy
1 lb Velveeta cheese
1/4 to 1/2 cup cornstarch
Cook broccoli in pan with enough water to soften, add cream, cheese, stir in cornstarch to thicken to your liking. I also added fried bacon I crumbled up for extra flavor. Make a large pot, to feed 9.
There you go. Now you can whip up some soup, while you are making your homemade laundry soap and impress your family as the super woman you are:)
Just don't take the dog to vet in your lap:(
And don't let daughter take off with your camera or you get goofy pictures like this..........
Thursday, January 21, 2010
No news, now I have been told, no whining allowed, since our boys sit there waiting which is 10 times worse than our sitting here waiting. But as I find us creeping closer to the 1 year since we met Chloe I can't help but think of the nasty person who told her it was taking too long that we weren't coming for her. Ohh, break my heart, how could someone do that to a child? And what are they saying to our boys? They can't understand paperwork, approvals, heck, even Chloe doesn't get that, she keeps saying " ahh, just go". Yeah, and what, live there? Till when?
I keep chanting God's timing, God's timing--- it helps to remind myself of that. Not even my journey, it's God's, and I am a blessed woman to be in on it.
We have been watching, like everyone else, the whole Haiti thing, wow, that's just so awful. To have so much devastation, to have so much suffering. No water, no food, sleeping in the streets, operations on tables out in the open.... it's just inconceivable the hugeness of it all. I am praying, it's all I can do, but no less important.
Pack in this week the girls getting more comfy here and starting to let me know some of what had been done to them in the past, and needing to work through it. It's a good sign, that they are comfortable with us to let down their guard some. An ongoing process but a healing one for them. Hard for a momma bear and honestly a Papa bear here made a comment about "ripping someone's head off" in regards to what had been done to them, so I can't say he is not affected and hurting for them as well.
I did make a super cheese broccoli soup this week, homemade- yum. Oh and to boost my "super mom" title back up, I made my own laundry soap. Very simple, and oh so CHEAP. 7 cents a load, and I do 5 loads of clothes a day usually. Nice lemony smell and the clothes are clean. I feel so domestic:)
Can't seem to get a picture to load so this post will be pictureless, I know, gasp, how could I, but that's how it is.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Her final pictures are of her new smile and her new contacts in. She already wanted to know if she could have blue ones, I told her "no" that would just look too weird.
Now I know, I am ruining my reputation as super mom, that I should have at least listened to her reasoning, or maybe not. I just didn't want to hear it. Guess my super mom status can slip a few notches into reality:)
Saturday, January 16, 2010
BTW, Kat was Thursday and Friday, although Friday was better than Thursday, she must have thought she didn't get enough trouble in on Thursday and she had to continue into Friday:( Still not sure of the "prize" but whatever it was KAT got it for this week!
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Pip's birthday was Tuesday, she is a cute little thing, so happy she is 6 now. I guess they would be called virtual twins, as her and Kat are so close in age. Just 3 months apart, but add in Em who is 7 and all are very small for their ages and it looks more like The Three Musketeers:)
The girls coming to us has been a wonderful thing in many ways, they are healing from past hurts, they are also helping Kat in her acceptance of having a birth mother. The girls came with the neatest term for their birth mom. Tummy Mummy. It's that CUTE?
It's sooo sweet to hear them say they have a tummy mummy who carried them in her belly under her heart. She is unable to care for them so they are with us, and I am their mommy. I care for them, I love them. Their acceptance of this allowed Kat to ask me about HER Tummy Mummy.
So as the girls said it and it was COOL she asked about her Tummy Mummy. And I told her what I knew. And she was fine with that. I always knew God sent us the kiddos we are meant to have even the short term ones, and here's a good example of that. For the girls as well, Kat and Chloe being adopted is super to them, they are not the only ones here that I am not their Tummy Mummy but I am every one's MOM:)
We haven't figured out who was Monday's child of misbehavior but I assure you Chloe was Tuesday's girl.
She got her friend on the phone and was asking me if she could ride the bus home with this friend on Wed, and I said "no." She was refusing to tell her friend, tried to make me tell her, and then when she got off the phone laid on the couch all covered up with blankets pouting and refused to come out for Pip's birthday celebration.
Cam was trying to help her come up with ideas of how she could make money to pay for one, seeing how bad she wanted one. When we got home I gave it to her, and I said " you need to behave better because we do not give things to badly behaved children and your behavior was not nice at ALL last night. She immediately looked shamed and said " I'm sorry." She sure is a teen:)
I treat her no different than the others these days, at first you have the language barrier that you must really help them as much as you can, but she is about as normal a teen as any now, home 10 months. It's an amazing transformation, and even with her teen snits, I love her dearly. She is one cool kiddo.
I guess she is in the running for the prize of the week, still not sure what that is either, but I can't say who was Wednesday's child so unless someone ends down the week with a whopper of a day, Chloe's gonna be the winner of their weekly plan....... do you think they take votes as to who won???
Sunday, January 10, 2010
We aren't sure what the prize is yet, but we'll let you in on it when we get that info. Otherwise we are just thankful they each pick a day, that we can handle... now if they all gang up on us.. who knows:)
We got Chloe's passport this week, less than 2 weeks after we applied for it! I am totally impressed state of PA:) They said 4 weeks when we applied. It made me terribly nervous to hand over the required original documents of hers but they did come back not even folded. YEAH!
3 of the girls are sporting something NEW---- can you guess?? It's EARRINGS:)
Everyone was so NOT surprised when I took a kit along to Ch*na when we adopted Kat and did her ears as soon as the papers were signed. Hey, now, she wanted them done. Poor girl had her head shaved and was such a girly girl. She loved having them and still does.
Now fast forward to Chloe's trip and yes, I took the kit but she said "no, no sank you." Oh, okay, I said. See, I really do not torture my young. But with more English she has come to tell us she had them before but they hurt terribly and she was scared but she wanted to have them. I can only imagine what they used to do it with and she knew nothing of cleaning them so it figures they were probably infected and quite painful.
I had permission for the girls to do theirs since they wanted to get it done. I did Pip's first and not a peep out of her. Next was Em, same thing. Chloe watched this and said "go ahead." So I did hers. She had to pick a little and say it hurt, although hard to convince mom of that when she had to ask if it was done yet?
They all look adorable and are doing great keeping up with the cleanings. I'm glad they are all done now, although Chloe can't imagine she must wait 2 months to change her earrings. She is already asking "how much earrings cost, where get them?"
I had to laugh this morning when she wore a dress to church with new tights I picked up on clearance, gotta LOVE clearance shopping with this many kiddos, but they were patterned with a design that was made from holes. They matched her dress perfectly but she wanted to know "why you buy me broken tights?"
I wonder who got Monday for this week??? Guess we'll have to wait till tomorrow to see? Stay tuned, I'll let you know:)
Thursday, January 7, 2010
A wonderful person, Trish has made my life so much better, she e-mailed this silly momma about the whole glasses issue and offered CONTACTS--- hello, I never ever thought of them. Guess you can tell I have never had glasses or vision issues . Son #1 has glasses, he tried contacts once and couldn't get over putting something in his eye, as well as Donobin.
Monday, January 4, 2010
This evening I took Chloe for a haircut, just a trim. Then we checked out glasses, she needs an exam but she assures me if I buy her new frames with plastic molded frame verses her ones she has now with the nose pads, that she will wear them all the time, yeah and pigs fly too. Mother was not born yesterday.
It's going to come to a battle, in which I will have to force her to wear them. She needs them and I have been patient enough with her never having them before. Em had to have glasses as well and just got them this last week, she is doing great wearing hers so Chloe will just have to accept she needs them and wear them :(
As we picked up a few things at the store, I came out from returning the cart and she had her head out of the van looking everywhere for me. I told her (joking) to get her head back in the van, she said " I no see you, I scared bad man come and say- give me your chicken and your money." I laughed as Miss Drama Queen was making all this up and could hardly tell me for her laughing so hard. She is such a goof. I did tell her she was pretty safe, she could lock the doors, there were cameras in the parking lot.
I was giving some support to another adoptive parent of a teen this weekend and came across yet another family that has followed God's call to adopt but then been slammed with the negativity of their family. Much to the dismay of many adoptive families, this sadly, is COMMON.
All I can say is SHAME ON YOU... and you all know who you are. For one thing the rule to adopt is you must be 35 for Ch*na, so we aren't talking about " hey, I'm 18 now, I think I'll adopt." It's usually a point of your life that you are pretty well set up, at least emotionally. Plus add in costs, and just the huge amount of paperwork, the time waiting, and you have mainly committed mature people doing this. As I don't know any people that do it for show, it's just so much deeper to add a child in and have to respect their culture, their past, their needs, than to do it for silly reasons.
So WHY does anyone feel they have a right to even COMMENT negatively? Our families care about us, hummmm... well, then why are they not happy for us, why are other adoptive parents MORE supportive? Why do we hear comments like "why do you need more?" from FAMILY?? When strangers say " oh wow, yeah, I'd have to go back for brothers too, good for you." We aren't looking for anyone to say what great folks we are, we aren't looking for a spot on TV for the next reality show.
It just would be nice if everyone's families said "wow another child, how blessed they and you will be." And STOP there. Don't ask how we can afford it unless you are paying my living expenses. Ask us "what can we do to help you?" Can we pray? Doesn't cost a DIME to pray for our family.
Please family, realize us adopting doesn't give you any more right to say to us "why, how, and what are you thinking?" than if we did the natural way and were pregnant- honest. You may not WANT that much information about us.
My best support has been someone from our church family, Chloe's friend's mom. She called me up out of the blue and said " I can't get the sibs story out of my mind- what can I do to help". She has not been able to financially help, but she calls me, she was there when I got the LOA for Chance and said "AHHH, now this and this and this needs done" and was flipping out. She said "you can do this" and I did! She told our story to people that have donated funds to help get our boys home. She is not asking for anything in return, she answered God's call for her to do this.
Families need to realize that these are children we have been called to adopt. Not that anyone HAS to do it too, it isn't for everyone. BUT it's so simple to just be willing to accept this child is, in fact, OUR CHILD, the child born in our hearts and our dreams that you are cutting up. Do you have the right? NO, I don't believe you do. So please, if you do not appreciate what God is leading us to do, smile and move on. Do not spread your ill will on MY family, because this is MY family, these children all blended in love and I will do all I can to protect them.
As children of our Savior I think many more "family members" need to understand GOD tells us to care for the widows and the orphans. We are doing His Will and if you don't like that- too bad, you are missing out on knowing some really cool kids.
If you happen to be the family member and I urge adoptive families, send this link to your disappproving family member to read, then I say "what is really your issue?" Do you think that one child on this earth deserves to live on the streets, hungry, scared? Adoption is not adding to the world population, it's giving a child, already born a chance at LIFE. Do you really think your son, daughter, mother, father, sister will love you LESS if they adopt? I encourage you to visit what your TRUE fear is and meet it head on. Beat it to the ground with joy and welcome for this new member of your family.
It's hard enough for the parents to take on many unknowns about their new child, worry about bonding, their medical needs, their educational needs, racial acceptance, so why would FAMILY add in another WORRY- it's NOT what family is supposed to be for!
Don't know what you can do? Make a phone call, e-mail, send a letter today, say to adoptive parents "what can I do to help?" It will mean so much to them. And to all of you that are already doing this for a child or a family that's adopting, GOOD JOB, please pat yourself on the back, you are wonderful.
I can tell you that there is yet to be a person that Miss Kitty doesn't like. She is all sweetness, and love. Chloe is more of a pistol but I can't begin to imagine life without either one of these precious girls. Any big or little thing we have done for them they have given us back 10 fold and we feel like we hit the super jackpot by being chosen for THEM.
Negative family members, I ask you--do you really want to mess with something that wonderful, really???
Saturday, January 2, 2010
The kids must be sick of me as they are thrilled just 2 days till they go back to school. Usually it's the other way around but they are being pretty good with all the new stuff they have to play with. I did take down the tree this week, I usually let it up longer but I had to figure out where to put all the stuff and needed it to all go away for my sanity sake. So now it's all away and I have my house back.
No big plans for the weekend, Chloe and Cam went with friends to see the ice sculptures, and run around with their friends all day:) Keeps them busy, as Chloe for one will pester momma all day if she thinks she has nothing to do:)
Last night Cam came to my room, he was all choked up and crying. He was trying to tell me something about a boy, his age, parents died, he was trying to care for his younger siblings and get them food to eat and he didn't get to eat. It was an ad for sponsoring children. Cam was just heartbroken. He cried and cried then went and started a pile in our room of things he could do without for this boy to have.
He s such a sweet boy, I think he is going to need a BIG house and a very understanding wife-- he's gonna be saving the children of the world. He ended up sleeping in my bed, he was just wore out from crying and as I went to sleep I thanked God for this precious son, with his big huge heart, his caring, his tears even, that he will hold that close to his heart and some day do something to better any child's life. My dream of adopting started with a program I watched as a teen about Ch*na's abandoned girls, so who knows what he will do. Won't it be fun to see??
Makes me think of people who hesitate to answer the call to do anything, we all need to be so excited, to gather things we really don't need and find someone who does need them. It was amazing to see Cam really think hard about things, not that he didn't want to give them up, but what all this boy could really use. Paper, pens, gloves, blanket, pillow, tissues, books, stuffed animal, and a few toys. He asked this morning -"Could we send it all, and add some food and clothes for him please?"
Through the eyes and the works of a child we learn so much. We are very honored to be this thoughtful and caring child's parents. He's really amazing.