For the first time since we started fostering we asked for respite. This means they go to another approved foster home for the weekend or longer, depending on the situation. Ours have gone for the weekend and will go for our trip for the boys. Why? Honestly-- they are wearing us out. As cute as the buggers are, they have some huge issues that have negatively affected our kids already here. Which places us in the position of protecting our kids from, well... them.
NOT a good place to be in. The girls have some coping skills that are not good. Terrible, in fact. And they can't help it. We know this. But it's hard to recall this when the big nasty behaviors surface and we are coping with them on a daily basis with no improvement. Another issue DONE to them, learning delays from things done to them- things they will possibly NEVER be able to learn.
One has pitted herself against Kat, who remains now as loving and willing to forgive her for most anything. But we know long term we can not let this continue. Funny enough, this child said "I'm a foster kid" and after 3 years of fostering Kat had to ask me, "what's a foster kid?" She really didn't know. We do not treat them any different than ours and ours are expected to accept them as siblings and do, they call them their sisters and brothers. And for good. (makes for some interesting conversations with people:)
Chloe has had some difficulties understanding "why" we foster. To her, you only have foster family if you have NO family, so to tell her they have parents but have issues that the parents can't take care of them but still see them, to her, is incredible. She has said "why they stay here, they have mother, why she no take them, and they not behave why we have them." It's teaching her to care for others and their situations as well as her own self. She can use a lesson in sympathy, she doesn't look for it for herself from her past, so she is very intolerant of others having issues from their past.
So we will recharge this weekend, we are off to shop, not many funds but the boys need a few things I haven't picked up on clearance over the past year, just this week I found the kids shirts for a buck, yep, a dollar! Gotta love Walm*rt, left over from St. Patty's Day, aren't they the neatest? I got one for Chloe, Chase and Chance. Too cool if you ask me:)
And we need a gift for Hannah's birthday. Chloe was just sure we'd be on our trip over Hannah's birthday so she is very happy now that she will be here for next weekend:)
It will be a quiet weekend with the 2 less, one of the few we will have before the boys come. I'm going to enjoy it, because we need to recharge.
Today did start well, even though I woke up thinking yeah, if I stop eating altogether now I could potentially lose 30 pounds before going on our trip. (MOM- do not call me with threats of doctors and hospitals if I try this)
I had the best of intentions then here came Cam with this----
Now how was I gonna say "no thanks" to that?
And am I going to watch Chloe pig out at her fave Chinese restaurant when we go shopping?
I am just going to accept that the boys will learn to love fluffy momma just as Chloe has and those women who did my laundry last trip??
They'll know.... I'm BACK.........