I'll start at the beginning. God led us to a precious 13+ year old girl to become our daughter. We hang on through mounds of paperwork, being the first family to travel with our agency under the new Hague Rules. We wait an agonizing 10 months to meet our daughter. We were sure we were done with China:) But was China done with us??
Fast forward to Feb 2009 in China. I meet our girl. She is shy, she is sweet. We are signing paperwork for her adoption and I am handed a translated police report for her. I start to read and my head is spinning. "She was found with 2 other children" HUH???? I ask- "who are these other children?" This makes no sense to me, children are not routinely found in GROUPS.
As the confusion mounts the guide asks our daughter. The guide looks at me with disbelief. My heart sinks. "MY brothers" was her answer.
What do we do?? I personally was devastated. How, why, when, who did this? How did this fail to be in her report, why were we not told, when did everyone else come to know this, what do we do NOW?
I Skyped Baba in tears- what should we do? How do we tear these children apart? Honestly I was heartbroken for Chloe. I couldn't sleep, I was so upset.
What do we decide? WE WANT THE BROTHERS. It's the only "right" thing to do.
Here's what we have done. We immediately asked about the boys. The answers we were given-
They were all at the same orphanage for many years together, both boys are still there.
They are bio siblings.
Everyone at the orphanage knew these 3 as siblings but they were not reported as siblings.
One brother with her did have a file for adoption with an agency in the USA.
So from there we attempted to have younger brother given to us while I was still in China to adopt Chloe. This could NOT be accomplished so I came home. We did know where his file was. Our agency for Chloe has since refused to help with funding for him so we are staying with the agency that has his file, they are helping us to go back for brothers, reducing fees where they can, giving us grant information, helping with other brother's paperwork needs.
What do we need- SADLY $$$$$$ is our ONLY roadblock. We do not lack funds or love to raise them, just funds to go back yet again- and sooo soon! We look at our girl and see a package deal. She is a sibling. We can not forget the boys. We did not expect to be parents to 10+ children. But God showed us this girl, led us to adopt her, for a reason.
We do not ask for one cent more than what we HAVE TO HAVE to get our dossier off to China for the brothers.
I've added a chip in on the top right so PLEASE, please HELP us bring Chloe's brother home. We can not post pictures of him from his file BUT there is a picture with this post, of Chloe and "friends" at the orphanage before she left, one of her own pictures and her brothers are not BLOND. Hint Hint.
As for other brother, he is NOT forgotten or lost. We are asking about paperwork for him, we want to bring home BOTH of these boys. No child is lost, every one is God's and deserves a chance. We will do all we can for him. We call him "Chase" as an American name. Chloe wishes younger brother to have name with "Ch" like her, we chose "Chance"as his name.
Chloe has known since we were in China that we were going to do everything we can for "the brothers." I don't think she believed it at the time, but she does now and she is THRILLED she has not lost them. I did not know at the time but when we visited the orphanage the last child we saw was hanging out the doorway yelling " bye, bye, bye" as loud as he could- IT WAS HER YOUNGER BROTHER! And when asked to buy anything she wanted in the store in China she bought gifts for her brothers.
I do not know how these children came to accept that they were to be taken from each other, and as far as they knew for forever, yet Chloe came to us sweet, willing, and wanting to be a part of our family. I am in awe of them. We cannot sit back and say "We don't have the money." I can't let it be the only reason we are not able to bring these brothers home.
If you feel like we do, that we have to go back for the brothers, please consider helping us, lift us up in prayer, help if you can financially, spread the word, we need all the help we can get. We invite you to share our story. Every dollar counts, every prayer is needed! YOU can be a part of the sibs story and change 3 childrens lives FOREVER- imagine what this means to THEM!
We will give them a loving family, they will be wanted, cherished and cared for by all of us, just as we wanted Chloe, they will not lack for LOVE. We will embrace them as our sons.
Most of all we ask- what would YOU do? Could you look in your new daughter's eyes and tell her "no, we can't go back for your brothers you love?"
We can't, we have to go back. It's like we left a part of her there.
We thank you for your support, for the hope you have given to our family that we can- indeed- keep these children together as a part of our family.